As a couple, your wedding day will almost certainly be the biggest event of your life thus far, and the pressure is on to get every little detail right.
The Groom, however, gets by far the better end of the deal; all you’ll have to look after is usually the cars, the venue and…oh yes that speech. Public speaking seems to hold more fear for the average guy than a parachute jump, but if you know what to say and how to say it, there really is nothing to worry about. Here are our top ten tips for writing a great Groom’s speech.
You’re usually following the father of the bride, who will have undoubtedly welcomed everybody – usually because he’s paying for it – but don’t let that stop you. It’s your day, your speech and your crowd, so it’s your job to thank them for coming.
These are entirely down to personal preference. I have been to weddings where there was one for nearly every paragraph but if you’re writing them into your speech they key is to check exactly who the other speakers are intending to toast as well. Nothing will make you panic faster than sitting there listening to the father of the bride, while crossing out great swathes of your speech as he hijacks your lines.
Of course, a part of every wedding speech is to thank the people for coming, however, unless you want it to turn into a table by table announcement of postcodes just reserve those thanks for the people who have gone the extra mile to be there. You’ve got a limited amount of time to do your thing so boredom prevention is paramount.
##Parents This is your one and only opportunity to give your parents the recognition they deserve for bringing you into this world and putting up with you as a teenager. Be honest, be sincere and don’t be tempted to gloss over it with a sentence.
People get emotional at weddings, and the Groom is no exception. It’s very usual for the situation to get to an otherwise rational young man and see him dishing out special mentions to the venue, the caterers and the guy who swept the church steps. If you’ve paid money for a service, leave it at that and keep the ‘big ups’ for friends and relatives who’ve done their unpaid bit.
Not too short, never too long, just right. The idea is to leave them with just the right amount of laughs and sentiment and this is why the last two points matter a great deal. You should be looking at something around the 7-minute mark or about 1200 words. If you find your speech hitting anywhere near the 1500 word mark it’s time to cross of a few aunties that have cashed in their Green Shield stamps to be there.
The Groom has the easiest speech on the day by a country mile. The funnies are really there for the Best Man to snag and all the Groom has to do is thank, acknowledge and commit. However, a groom’s speech without humour is an opportunity missed. You don’t have to go overboard but remember the time when you first met? Your first date? The first time you met her parents? There’s comedy gold somewhere amongst that lo
##Those no longer with us##
This again is personal preference, but with a few glasses of fizz on board Grooms can tend to overindulge. It’s a very tricky subject to handle and I can’t think of a single wedding I’ve written for or been to where this didn’t come up. The ones that work the best are those where the people are acknowledged in a light-hearted but respectful way. A mini eulogy can really dampen the atmosphere and this is, after all, meant to be a celebration.